what do you tie your self worth to?

I was watching this video called "Why I no longer aspire to have a career" by Katherout and boy does it hit home. Especially when you're watching it at work haha.

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Just a few years back I was naive enough to think one day I'm gonna be this executive flying business class to a different continent every week, and then I'll be so occupied with work and I'll be so happy. I thought having a great career with a long ladder to climb will fulfill me and be the end all be all incentive to keep me going for the rest of my life. I thought I would love my job so much I wouldn't be bothered if other aspects of my life is shit.

Haha

A few years back all i aspire to have is a career, either in arts or languages.

or so i thought

Haha

And maybe i wasn’t completely wrong. Maybe if i did have a career in arts or languages, I would be happy and fulfilled. But that’s besides the point because that’s a big if.

The point is, why did I tie my self worth to a career? Why would I feel like i have nothing if I lost my career? While in fact without a job I am still me and I will probably be ok in the end. Without my job I still have the skill sets and the ability to do something else, even if it's flipping burgers.

Don't get me wrong, a fulfilling job will contribute to happiness. But a job isn't enough to fill the whole big happiness balloon. That's like calling a koala bear the zoo. Sure it's part of the zoo, but it's not the zoo.

People ask, upon meeting you for the first time, what do you do?, followed by "wow, you must be [insert some stereotypical characteristics of that job]"

I hate that what you do defines you. It shouldn't.

I am a person. I am not a job. My job is barely me - although it’s ironic that I do little else besides working everyday. Nothing against my particular job, it's awesome. It's just my whole career choice in general.

It's like a trap. Middle class trap perhaps. You're not rich enough to go for humanities but you're born into an "education background" so you can't skip college to open a coffee shop. So you do STEM to be rich and have a college degree.

Deep down, I want to be known as creative and passionate. Will you ever know that? Maybe not. And that's okay, but I just wish I was known as the creative one.

Now all I aspire to be, really, is to be happy.